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Coming Home: Seven Families Lay Their Fallen Soldiers to Rest. A Photo Essay

January/February 2005 Issue

For a moment, imagine the coffins empty, the burial grounds free of people, free of despair. Imagine the young men and their young bodies doing the work of youth. Imagine the parents watching a television drama or chatting on the porch with their neighbors. Pretend the death-folded flags are stacked on a sergeant’s supply shelf, gathering dust rather than grief.

This is, of course, a foolish and dangerous game. It’s the game the Bush administration would prefer we play, but more corpses are en route, and more broken bodies, shattered psyches, damaged souls.

My combat death fantasies began before I joined the Marine Corps. They started with Platoon, and the not-so-friendly-fire casualty of Sergeant Elias, his arms outstretched in martyrdom and splendor. Willem Dafoe’s character had fought both the Viet Cong and the Army’s own demons with veracity and courage. Good men die tragically, and the best die in combat. I’d grown up around the military, and, without being aware of it, internalized the military’s obscene power and culture. I had pallets full of honor and sacrifice waiting on the docks, manifested for shipment to lands foreign, dangerous, and strange. My father had survived combat in Vietnam, but I might go fight for my country and die, tragically and heroically—I’d die in the storied bloody fields of American history where my father had not.

By the time I arrived in Saudi Arabia to fight in the 1991 Gulf War, my fantasies had been replaced by the very real facts that surrounded me, in the buildup of troops and the matériel carried on my body: rifle, pistol, grenades, a radio with which I might call in 500-pound bombs. I was here to kill, and people on the other side of that sand berm wanted to kill me. The romance of a combat death evaporates when combat arrives.

I wonder, then, when the men and woman whose burials we see in these photographs lost their romantic attachment to combat, killing, and death, their own death and the deaths of others. Be certain that at some point they entertained such fantasies. Perhaps only for a few days of basic training; possibly, like me, until they landed in theater.

Most combat fatalities are neither storied nor spectacular. Spc. Martin Kondor and Spc. Bert Hoyer died while traveling in vehicles that were hit with improvised explosive devices (IED), as the military calls them, or roadside bombs, which is a clearer definition. Kondor acted as a bodyguard for an infantry colonel whose job it was to spread American good will to the Iraqi people. The colonel was fortunate enough to survive. Pfc. Luis Moreno was shot while guarding a gas station. Dominican by birth, he was awarded U.S. citizenship posthumously. Staff Sgt. Scott Rose died when the Black Hawk helicopter he served on went down. The Humvee that Pvt. Bryan Nicholas Spry was driving crossed a bridge that crumbled under the vehicle. Three of his comrades swam to safety, but Spry was unconscious, and his lungs filled with water. Pfc. Bruce Miller, Jr. died from a noncombat gunshot wound; his death is still under investigation. Less than two years had passed since Army cook Spc. Tyanna Avery-Felder married Spc. Adrian Felder. She also died from an IED while driving in a convoy, reportedly delivering meals to troops, meals she hadn’t prepared because the Army had hired civilian contractors to do the cooking. Nothing like being cooked out of your job by the lowest bidder. (At the World War I Battle of Belleau Wood, U.S. Marine Corps band members were initially called into duty as riflemen, but when the commanding officer realized he was losing his horn players at an alarming rate, he orderedthe band back to headquarters—they were needed for a Fourth of July parade in Paris a few weeks later.)

The colleagues of these fallen would have been asked to pack their personal belongings for shipment home. Long before they were killed, the dead would have been advised to discard any paraphernalia they didn’t want people back home to receive. Every soldier carries a private self that even his closest loved ones will never know.

And they should not. Shortly after their deaths, the unit armorer assigned their weap-ons to someone else in the battalion, a new guy. Imagine receiving a dead man’s rifle for your first combat patrol. The combatant dies, but his killing tools are passed on.

The flag-draped coffins arrive at Dover Air Force Base prior to being shipped to their burial locations. If a military burial is chosen, soldiers from a local unit will perform the ceremony. It is unlikely that the dead soldier would have known these people. His friends are back in Iraq.

Soldiers in this war have died in all four seasons. Some burials have taken place in the bitter cold, and during others it’s been warm enough for women to wear light dresses. But the end result is the same: a body in the ground, a family struck with grief, a mother or sister or wife or husband holding a flag folded in the tight red, white, and blue triangle that means death.

See also: Paul Fusco: The Story Behind the Photos.

 


 

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Who said freedome was free?? Enjoy your right to critisize us!! it's our job to do, so you liberal [deleted]s can complain!! All I can say is,, YOUR WELCOME!!! You [deleted]in [deleted]!! Honor our heros, support our cause, or get the [deleted] out of OUR country!! [deleted] YOU!!!
Posted by:BrianOctober 31, 2007 5:47:53 PMRespond ^
we dont do it to glamorize death you wimp!! We do it because someone needs protecting!! someone needs freedom!! someone needs US!! So take your wimpy behind back to the playground!! You calim to be a vet!! you are a wimp! Your reflections on your fathers service in vietnam, while admirable, is distorted by your attitude towards serving!! yOu have tarnished your father's great service and have furthermore took away from our generation's service members!! just shut the hell up!! You friggin wimp!!
Posted by:BrianOctober 31, 2007 5:52:18 PMRespond ^
whoa there young man , as a vet I have also seen war. This war is about money, our freedoms are being removed daily by Uncle Buck, Uncle Sam is dead.
Posted by:freeyourmindNovember 1, 2007 6:27:34 PMRespond ^
Iread with pity, maybe someday there will be peace in the world and there will be nothing like first vclass or second class citizen, everyone will be world citizen and we 'ii leave happily.
Posted by:Tonie ObajeNovember 2, 2007 9:22:16 AMRespond ^
my brother was a marine killed in iraq a year ago november. did he believe in this war? no. did he love this country? yes. it was his job, he did it and he's dead at 22. god bless ameerica.
Posted by:meganNovember 2, 2007 11:52:43 AMRespond ^
Let us all remember what we're fighting against: www.TerrorCinema.org. God bless our troops.
Posted by:JohnNovember 4, 2007 8:56:40 AMRespond ^
Maybe you were never taught there are some things worth fighting for. You write this story and enjoy your freedom, but how much freedom and anti war writings would you have if you would have been in the World Trade Center. I wonder if you will change your opinion before a search and rescue team pulls one of your family's mangled body from a pile of shattered concrete.
Posted by:StevenNovember 6, 2007 9:06:28 AMRespond ^
IF you still think this war is about protecting the homeland...I have some land in the desert to sell ya.!!!
Posted by:dorothyNovember 6, 2007 2:56:40 PMRespond ^
All I have to say about this war is unfortunally I'm sick of losing my friends and family.... Another one just died yesterday... I can't take it anymore.. I don't even know what the hell this war is about anymore...
Posted by:AnoyimousNovember 6, 2007 5:16:25 PMRespond ^
rest in peace to all my dead soldiers i know that your family will miss u but u is and a better place then being on earth so for all the people who have lost family dont cry celeabrate for all the good times you had with that peson R.I.P. DEAD SOLDIERS
Posted by:ripNovember 8, 2007 6:55:09 AMRespond ^
Whoah Brian. I think the point here was to talk about how these men and women are dying, but also to bring about some brutal honesty when it comes to the war. Don't get hyped up about party lines, they don't matter here. Sons and daughters fighting for America are being lost no matter what or who they believe in. By you going off the handle like that, you're disrespecting the troops and the writer at the same time. Thanks for writing the article. I loved it. I have a lot of friends over there and I know it's awful. Protect and Support our troops!
Posted by:DanielleNovember 8, 2007 7:25:35 AMRespond ^
Yes, Brian how many tours did you complete. No one is taking this war seriously because the draft isn't opened. Wait till they open the draft, everyone will think different cause theirs or you have to go.
Posted by:DottyMacch2u@aol.comNovember 11, 2007 4:23:02 PMRespond ^
I too held on to romantic notions about combat and what it entailed, but the bottom line is that when you do die that is it. I would ask anyone that wants to call me a wimp for opposing the war to go with me on my next tour. My brothers and sisters are being killed and we are no more or less free that we were on the the day before Sept 11th. Violence does not solve problems, we cannot kill our way into peace in the middle east. I am sorry to my brothers and sisters in the service who disagree with me, but if you have been over there deep down I think you know what I say it true.
Posted by:SGTNovember 19, 2007 7:31:08 AMRespond ^
My brother just got back form Iraq and told me all the horrifying things that go on their..why he's still their i dont know. i wish they would just come back.
Posted by:JO JONovember 29, 2007 7:31:04 AMRespond ^
Hey freedom isn't free and if it cost lives for others to live then i am glad to be a marine and die for your honor.
Posted by:AlanDecember 18, 2007 6:30:24 AMRespond ^
Im a former Marine also, many glorious thoughts of dying on the battlefield. My opinion changed crossing that DMZ, my opinion changed with shared perspective and many lonely nights of personal insight. You should all read Johnny Got His Gun by Dalton Trumbo. Outlawed in many schools due to it being "anti-war" but in reality it spoke of just which this article did. When it comes down to it, what was my purpose, was I lied to, did I really believe that with which I was told, and is it worth my life. Fantastic book. and if you all have any questions email me. onemansjourney@gmail.com
Posted by:daveDecember 26, 2007 3:28:36 PMRespond ^
ty for serving the us and god bless yea
Posted by:joshua bJanuary 7, 2008 8:35:53 AMRespond ^
your boys death wont be in vain me and the rest of the miliyary will make sure their cause isnt lost
Posted by:pfc valdezJanuary 18, 2008 6:47:07 PMRespond ^
listen you liberals im being shipped to iraq sometime soon and im leaving behind a fiancee and if yall say that the military is stupid then i wanna see you over there doing what we do.we love our country unlike you and we appreciate the ones that have gone before us.so back the hell off
Posted by:pfc valdezJanuary 18, 2008 6:55:28 PMRespond ^
my comment is take care cuz soldiers are important to us
Posted by:nadiaJanuary 24, 2008 9:48:26 AMRespond ^
Support our troops, bring them home now. They don't deserve to be misused by our corrupt government.
Posted by:SarahFebruary 1, 2008 4:28:33 PMRespond ^
martin hes my hero hes my friend Steven Kondors Cousin i never really met him but he'll always be my hero for all who dont kno a piece of a bomb shell flew and got him in his skull hes the hero of our whole school
Posted by:Brandon S. From EasternFebruary 7, 2008 12:24:10 PMRespond ^
The best line I have ever heard: " America is not at war, the Marine Corps is at war, America is at the mall shoping". When and if the draft is called back, when the rich have to serve side by side with the poor, then and only then will you see politicians "true" colors. The poor and middle class go to war because they must, out of economic neccessity. While there are those that are patriots and truly care about this country , are few and far between. Politicians don't care, their kids aren't fighting the war. They just play lip service. When was the last time a leading politicians son or daughter had to serve, or choose to serve in the military! Freedom is not free! but yet those that are well off and wealthy do not pull their fair share, whether it is through the payment of taxes ... or through the payment of blood thru sacrifise!
Posted by:Christopher MorganFebruary 19, 2008 1:18:43 AMRespond ^
Thank you Editors et al for the Photo Essay of our fallen soldiers. These photos should be on the front page of every American newspaper but of course that would be REAL and politically risky journalism. Where have all the leaders gone?
Posted by:DorothyFebruary 20, 2008 6:16:35 AMRespond ^
There are way too many men and women dying in the Iraq war. There is no reason why they are dying; there is no use for the war. They are over in the Middle East for no reason, risking their lives for nothing. Their family and friends miss them and want them home. They should me home them, celebrating Christmas, Birthdays, etc. They must come home!
Posted by:AlyssaMarch 13, 2008 10:17:09 AMRespond ^
Iraq had NOTHING to do with 9/11!
Posted by:MickeyMarch 13, 2008 4:52:03 PMRespond ^
Freedom from what? Can I say "George Bush is an idiot"? Am I free to say that?
Posted by:RobertMarch 27, 2008 5:56:28 AMRespond ^
We all have a right to our opinions in our democracy, and to be heard without insulting one another. So here is mine, and I hope it will be cooly listened to and respected, even if it differs from the opinions of others. I have not been in a war, but I remember Korea and Viet Nam and members of my family, who were in those wars. There is a difference between the war and the soldier. The soldiers are heroes for sacrificing their own lives for what they believe in. But there is also a difference between Iraq and Afghanistan. Iraq had nothing to do with 9/11. The terrorists in Afghanistan did. Since we attacked Iraq, the subsequent insurgency has made it difficult to understand that we never should have asked the troops to go to Iraq in the first place. Telling us that Iraq had WMD, when it did not, and confusing two completely different countries, Iraq and Afghanistan, stirred up a hornet's nest, which we are going to have a difficult time extricating ouselves from. Our troops are to be commended; asking them to go to Iraq should not be. The best way to support our troops is to send them to Afghanistan to get the real terrorists, or to bring them home alive and well, and give them what they need, when they return. Americans have rightly decided not to punish the troops for being sent to war, as happened to many of those who were sent to Viet Nam, but that does not mean that all wars are good if America starts them, and that does not mean that if the war is wrong, the troops are wrong. I do not understand why those in government, who remembered our ill advised war in Viet Nam allowed this to happen again. It is deja vu all over again to many of us old enough to remember. Thank you to the troops and those in Afghanistan too, and I hope these wars end soon and you will be able to come home.
Posted by:CarolMarch 28, 2008 9:37:45 PMRespond ^
All I can say is thank you for all that you do! You will never be forgotten and close at heart! Thank you for that you have done and will do! BRING OUR TROOPS HOME!
Posted by:Kimberley CookMarch 31, 2008 7:50:53 AMRespond ^
The mother's and father's pain is so very real here. Every soldier who dies is someone else's baby.
Posted by:melApril 9, 2008 11:01:02 PMRespond ^
all soldiers are heros
Posted by:mirandaApril 10, 2008 10:36:34 AMRespond ^
WOW!!! talk about eye opening..ALL SOLDIERS ARE HEROES!!! BRING THEM HOME!! THIS IS THE ONLY thing were doing to them!! and their Families
Posted by:Crystal RangelApril 14, 2008 7:19:43 AMRespond ^
May God rest their souls and forgive Bush; a man that refused to serve when given his chance.
Posted by:Jon R WhiteApril 16, 2008 7:35:47 PMRespond ^
i think this war, is a waist of everyones time.
we shouldnt of even got into it at all.
were killing people more iraq citizens then enemys.
Posted by:tessApril 24, 2008 11:39:38 AMRespond ^
in all this arguing against our wars it would be more realistic to understand that we are nearing the end times and are at the moment engaged in a war with satan as all our wars have been. Satan the prince of the world. It will continue this way untill Jesus returns so accept it and live with it.
Posted by:milesddeweyMay 4, 2008 1:06:17 PMRespond ^
it is very hard for people to accept the idea that we have a professional military. it is a career path for many and it entails risks - as do many jobs in life. It seems harder to accept the idea that once you have a professional military (contractors and active duty) they may be used by an administration to address identified problems. whether the administration makes wise or unwise decisions is reflective of the administration not the members of the profession of arms. Although I understand that some people feel personal need to attack those who criticize the war, I do not understand those who feel compelled to attack citizens who are skeptical of an administration that has lied about so many things
Posted by:andyMay 9, 2008 9:39:52 AMRespond ^

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