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WHEN POLICE OFFICERS walked into the Hendrickson home at 2:45 a.m. on October 31, 1994, they found Shelley in her nightgown, curled up in the fetal position on the floor. She had a swollen eye, a bruise on her forehead, and tears running down her cheeks. Tied to one of her wrists was a piece of rope. Ashley was on the couch next to her; the three other children were in their rooms. In the master bedroom, the officers found Rodney facedown on the bed. Blood spattered the wall next to him. One of his eyeballs was on the floor. There was a gunshot wound in the back of his head.

At first Shelley insisted a pair of masked men had broken in, tied her to the bed, and shot Rodney. Three hours later, hunched over a table in an interrogation room at the police station, she confessed to the murder. Earlier that night, she explained, after the children had gone to sleep, Rodney had grabbed her by the hair, smashed her head against the headboard, and tied her wrists to the bed. Then he raped her. After he fell asleep, she'd freed herself and reached under the bed to get the shotgun.

An autopsy later revealed that at the time of his death Rodney had a large amount of cocaine in his system. The police found the shotgun in the basement, in a portion still filled with water from the flood 16 months earlier. They found the rest of the ammunition in another part of the basement, hidden in a box with Christmas lights.

During the police interrogation, Shelley admitted lying about more than just the masked men. Two days earlier she'd called 911 and made a false report, claiming that someone had stolen her new shotgun. She had fabricated this story, she insisted, to steer Rodney off course if he found out she'd purchased a weapon. Why had she decided to buy a gun in the first place? "To protect myself," she said.

The masked men, the stolen gun, the false report she filed with the police—all of these made-up stories undermined Shelley's credibility in the minds of the officers. "Based on these circumstances, I told Michelle that I was having a hard time believing anything she told me," one sergeant wrote in his report. To someone who knew her history of abuse, Shelley's fabrications might have looked very different—evidence of her desperation as she increasingly felt her life was in danger.

Shelley was taken to the county jail and charged with first-degree murder. Her bail was set at $1 million. Six weeks later, during a preliminary hearing, an expert on battered women testified that Shelley had endured nearly 20 years of abuse and that she was not a threat to society. In another county, a better understanding of the psychology of domestic violence victims (combined with the way Shelley's face looked when she was arrested) might have convinced the prosecuting attorney to charge her with a less serious crime—manslaughter, say, instead of murder. But the prosecutors in St. Charles County, a conservative area outside St. Louis, did not budge.

Shelley's children—ages 11, 8, 7, and 5—moved in with one of Rodney's sisters. Shelley's first choice, her own sister, had no room in her house since she already had five children of her own. Shelley spent the next two years in the county jail, trying to figure out what to do. If she went to trial and lost, she'd likely spend the rest of her life in prison. In the end, she decided to plead guilty to second-degree murder in exchange for a 15-year prison sentence. She would be eligible for parole in about 13 years. By then all four of her children would have grown up without her.


PROFESSORS AND STUDENTS at four law schools across Missouri worked throughout most of 1999 and 2000 preparing clemency applications. They sorted through dozens of cases and came up with 11 women they thought were good candidates. All met the same criteria: They had a history of domestic violence; they had been convicted of killing (or ordering the killing of) their batterers; they had received lengthy prison sentences; and they had exhausted all their legal appeals.

Of the 11 women, 5 had life sentences, 3 had to serve 50 years before they were eligible for parole, 1 had a 20-year sentence, and 2 (including Shelley) had received 15 years. The clemency petitions contended that the "presence of prolonged and sustained abuse" should have reduced the women's culpability in the eyes of prosecutors and resulted in less severe punishments.

"These women are not what have been described as your 'typical murderers,'" wrote Jane Aiken, a professor at Washington University School of Law, in a legal brief filed with the petitions. "They did not act with 'cold hearts': their acts are better characterized as final acts of desperation in the context of severe physical and sexual violence inflicted upon them."

In this clemency campaign, Shelley played a crucial role. She recruited many of the women, including her friend Carlene Borden, who'd been locked up since 1978 in connection with her boyfriend's murder of her abusive husband. Of the 11 women represented by the team of law professors, Carlene had been imprisoned the longest. Another candidate was Ruby Jamerson, who had been sent to prison in 1989 for asking her son and his friend to kill her abusive husband.

Much has changed since the 1970s and 1980s, when Carlene and Ruby were convicted. Now police officers are more likely to arrest an abusive husband when his wife calls the police. When a woman is charged with killing her batterer, the defense team often includes an expert on domestic violence. And judges are much more likely to allow testimony about past abuse. Indeed, as the clemency petitions pointed out, women accused of killing their abusers in the 1970s and 1980s would likely receive less prison time today for the same crime.

To bolster Shelley's clemency application, her legal team collected 21 letters of support from members of her family and 36 from friends and former classmates at Mercy High. Nobody from Rodney's family wrote on her behalf, but Rodney's sister-in-law Melissa did write to Shelley's lawyers, trying to dissuade them. "The fact of the matter is that Michelle Hendrickson is a murderer," she wrote. "I don't feel that after planning and premeditating a murder and shooting her husband in the head with a deer slug that she should be released after just 6 years." In the summer of 2000, Governor Carnahan was running for a seat in the U.S. Senate. Hopes were high that he might grant clemency to a group of women right before he left office, when elected officials are more likely to make this sort of politically risky decision. Then, on October 17, 2000, Carnahan died in a plane crash. The possibility that Shelley and the rest of the women would be let out of prison early suddenly seemed much less likely.

The team of law professors pressed on, turning their focus to Carnahan's replacement, Lt. Governor Roger B. Wilson, who filled the top spot for 83 days. On the last day of Wilson's short term, Shelley's lawyer, Marie Kenyon, traveled to Jefferson City. "I followed his chief lawyer around the Capitol building the whole day, bugging him," says Marie, an adjunct professor at Saint Louis University School of Law. "He was in his office, wrapping up his plaques, putting them in boxes, explaining to us why this wasn't going to happen."

Robert Holden succeeded Wilson as governor in January 2001, and nearly four years later, at the end of his term, the coalition finally had its first success. Holden commuted the sentences of two women represented by the coalition: Shirley Lute, 74, who had been locked up for 23 years, and Lynda Branch, 52, who'd been in prison for 18 years. Holden's decision enabled them to go before the parole board this year; they are expected to be released soon.

At the end of 2004, Shelley received a letter stating that her request for clemency had been denied. There was no explanation. Now she must wait three years before she can reapply. "That's one of the ridiculous things about this case," says Marie. "It literally sat on the governor's desk for almost five years, so that was five years of wasted time."


ONE MORNING THIS SPRING, Shelley, who is now 45, told her story to a reporter while seated in the parole room at a prison in Vandalia, Missouri. She wore a gray inmate uniform and two crosses, one on a chain around her neck and another pinned to her collar. She still has curly blond hair, but now it's thinner on top. Both her mother and grandmother had breast cancer, and two years ago Shelley discovered a lump in one of her breasts. She recalls that it took her five or six months to get treatment. Joe and her mother called the prison regularly, trying to speed up the process. "You could be jeopardizing her life," Joe would say. Eventually Shelley had a lumpectomy, then chemotherapy and radiation.

These days, Shelley no longer sees bruises or black eyes when she looks in the mirror, but she can still see faint scars on her wrists, reminders of the rope burns she got when Rodney tied her to the bed. Though 11 years have passed since that last night with him, the memories are fresh in her mind. "I can still smell the smells," she says—sweat, gunpowder, blood. "And I can still hear the sounds. I can still feel the hits. I can still feel every time my head hit that headboard. I can still feel the burns on my wrists."

From behind the walls of prison, she tries to be a mother to her children, who are now 22, 18, 17, and 15. She calls them every Sunday evening at Rodney's sister's house, and her mother brings the youngest one to see her every month. But more than a year has passed since Shelley last saw her oldest child, Ashley. A few years ago, Ashley got into an abusive relationship, started using drugs, and got arrested. "Nobody knew where she was for over a year," Shelley says. "She was living in a car." The hardest part of being locked up, says Shelley, has been watching her kids struggle without her.

To boost Shelley's spirits, Joe reminds her of what they've accomplished over the last eight years: Two women will soon be freed, including 74-year-old Shirley Lute. "This lady was destined to die there," Joe says. "As I keep telling Shelley, had she not gone to prison, there's a good chance Shirley Lute may never have gotten out." Joe is planning a barbecue this summer to celebrate Shirley's release.

Shelley is not eligible for parole until 2007, when she will have served 85 percent of her sentence. Most likely she will leave behind Carlene, Ruby, and the rest of the women who joined the clemency campaign. Unless a sympathetic governor intervenes, they are destined to grow old in prison.

Jennifer Gonnerman is a staff writer for the Village Voice, where she has covered the criminal justice system since 1997. Her first book, Life On the Outside: The Prison Odyssey of Elaine Bartlett, was a finalist for the National Book Award, and state legislators have credited it with helping to reform New York's notorious Rockefeller drug laws.

Photos: Susan Meiselas/Magnum



 

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What's so sad is this: If the legal system had done its job of protecting this woman (arresting the abuser), and if the justice system had laws that were meaningfully effective (i.e., don't charge him with "domestic violence, charge him with "attempted murder"), she would never have even thought about shooting him. But the ways things are, the reality of a woman living with a batterer, is that 1) he is bigger/stronger than you so that you can not leave while he's there 2) he will hunt you down if you manage to get away while he's gone 3)there is no real help 4)so the decision that must be made is: Since I can't get help, I have to take the chance of killing him and getting acquitted or losing my life (and children)to a life behind bars. In this day and age, in this country, why do women have to make this decision?
Posted by:Karen MartinJune 6, 2007 1:08:57 PMRespond ^
I am shellys youngest daughter. I would first like to say that no one really knows what happened. My father was not a horrible person like everyone is making him out to be and what i dont understand is that if you didnt know him why are you calling him abussive. You people only have one side of the story so my opinion to you people is mind your own business and stop calling my father an abusser and a horrible person because my mother lied about that so get your facts straight, let her serve the time that she diserves for killing mine and my brothers and my sisters dad. Also you need to not post anything else about what happened because everything that you write is a lie because you don't know the story and we are the ones that have to live with it so once again i am saying this is no ones business but mine and my brothers and my sisters. If you have anything else to say about my dad call me and tell me and i will let you know what i think about it.
Posted by:Brittney HendricksonAugust 1, 2007 11:18:45 AMRespond ^
bravo to both of you.But there is verbal beatings of the mind that children are not aware of or recognize until you are an adult. These comments that are made are sneaky and strip someone slowly of their self worth before you know it.When you are brought down to the other persons level you unfortunately act in many unbecoming ways because you are reprogrammed on auto pilot to respond and survive to the other's cues.And that way they have succeeded in cutting you from the herd.
Posted by:H R ROctober 1, 2007 9:56:57 PMRespond ^
To Brittney - Hold onto what good memories you have. It's not been easy for you. I think what people are trying to say is to look for someone who has your best interest in mind All THE TIME and would never hurt you. I wish you the best in life. Good Luck PS There is lots of good help if you ask
Posted by:FreedpatriotOctober 7, 2007 12:05:08 PMRespond ^
Brittney, I don't know what happened all those years ago. Iif you were only 5 at the time, then most of what you know about the truth is what people have told you. I do know your mother, though. I am part of a Christian ministry that has been visiting the prison in Vandalia for years and Shelly has been a faitful participant in our church services through most of that time. She is not the same person she was then. She is kind, compassionate, and a real helper of other women in need. Hopefully you can get to know the real her sometime soon when her time is up. My wife and I pray for you and Shelly's other kids all the time. Shelly is so proud of all of you, and longs to share her faith and God-given peace with you.
Posted by:TROctober 16, 2007 12:11:58 PMRespond ^
I do no tblame Shelley for what she did, one can only take so much abbuse. If she wouldn't have done what she did, who knows maybe she wouldnt be her to tell her story today. Maybe this is the only way she felt she could be freed. She might be more freed now then she ever was in those 20 years with her husband. And to her daughter, how can you say that nothing ever happened to your mother when police in her city have photos of the night that everthing happened. Photos say more than words. You dont know what happened before you were born how do you know that your mother was never abused. you should kind of think of this has your mother did it for you and your siblings because who kinows what else your ABBUSIVE father was capable of.
Posted by:Cythia AlvarezOctober 30, 2007 2:57:04 PMRespond ^
Having a mother that suffered domestic abuse and being the one that always defended her, I saw how desperate my mother got. My younger brothers saw it too, but as adults have refused to put a stop to it. They just dont want to get involve or they pretend like they dont remember. It is easier to blame her for what he has done. As children we might not understand why things happen. As for Brittney, I am very sorry that she has had to grow up without her parents. For those of us who had terrible fathers or mothers wish to have grown up without them. All I can say one day she will be a mother and God forbid she goes through the same situation, but maybe then she will be able to the pieces together.
Posted by:Riverside, CAOctober 30, 2007 2:57:52 PMRespond ^
If the killer had been the husband, and the abuse was coming from an alcoholic or mentally ill woman, he'd have got life for killing her. Or death. Not 10 years. Self-defence requires that there be an immediate risk of serious harm or death, not a "pattern". There are other routes out of an abusive relationship besides murder when such a pattern exists, and it's unfortunate that Mrs. Hendrickson didn't choose one of those instead of committing murder and then attempting to lie about it. As tragic as her case surely is, if we want to make any kind of meaningful dent in the problem of domestic violence in other families, we need to start treating it as a multi-causal phenomenon rather than a gender problem. Women commit approximately 50% of reciprocal domestic violence and 71% of non-reciprocal domestic violence according to a massive CDC study published this year: http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/42/15/31-a?eaf Yet the only services and intervention programs available automatically treat women as victims and men as offenders, just as this article is doing (despite the protests from the victim's daughter here in the comments), and there are essentially no services for abused men. Such programs do absolutely NOTHING to reduce violence in the home, and I should know: I grew up in a home with an abusive woman. Until we start treating violence properly, more people will continue to suffer and die. Brittney, I'm terribly sorry for the tragedy you've suffered, and I know that nothing I can say in a blog comment is going to mean a thing to you. I can only hope that you and your siblings are OK, and that you're all living someplace safe.
Posted by:JDDecember 19, 2007 2:33:02 AMRespond ^
THANKS I DONT NEED YOUR HELP
Posted by:BRITTNEYMarch 7, 2008 1:32:27 PMRespond ^
fIRST OFF HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE POLICE HAVE YOU HAVENT SEEN THE PHOTOS BECAUSE THEY WOULDNT RELEASE THEM TO YOU. aLL YOU PEOPLE HAVE ARE THE STORYS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD. YOU WERENT THERE. aND YEAH I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BEFORE I WAS BORN, BUT MY FAMILY WAS AROUND YEAH MAYBE NOT ALL THE TIME BUT ENOUGH TO KNOW. aND IF SHE DID GET ABBUSED LIKE ALL YOU RETARDED ASS PEOPLE THINK MAYBE SHE DESERVED IT. aLSO ONCE AGAIN MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS!!!
Posted by:BRITTNEYMarch 7, 2008 1:39:06 PMRespond ^
Britney, before you reply to my posting, if you will, please take the time to read the whole thing, with an open mind, rather than anger towards what I wrote. This was not intended to be judgmental nor a compassion “note”& I hope you will be rational about it.
I know you feel like the world has been unfair to you and your siblings. You blame your mother for everything because when you needed her the most she wasn’t there for you. You have, I am sure gone through a confusing time growing up because you have been surrounded by people telling you different things: Some blaming your mother, others your father and you were left in the middle of this battle of who’s wrong or right. It is amazing on how much hatred you have towards your mother, especially when you have said something very important: “aND YEAH I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED BEFORE I WAS BORN, BUT MY FAMILY WAS AROUND YEAH MAYBE NOT ALL THE TIME BUT ENOUGH TO KNOW.” I am sure your father was not always drunk or aggressive and I‘m sure he was a good person deep down inside. Maybe his behavior, when under the influence, was caused by something that happened to him growing up or before meeting your mother. However that does not justify inflicting physical pain onto another person. It does not matter whether it is a slap, a punch, or a serious beating; no one has the right to manifest that way. Your mother was not convicted by reasons of insanity. Consider this: Why would a woman kill her husband when she has four children to take care of. Why would she do so and admit to her crime if she had no reason to kill him? Weather the real reason is strong or not it exists. My advice to you is to figure the truth on your own. Listen to what everyone has to say however don’t believe everything you read or hear. Start your own “investigation”, find enough evidence by yourself to make a judgment of your own, on the situation. Talk to your older sister and people outside of your family that knew both your mother and your father. Read reports and articles on the case and judge if they make sense or not. Check your parent’s history. Until you DO find the truth, don’t take sides as to who’s to blame and who isn’t.

Regards,
Iulia B
Posted by:Iulia BMarch 13, 2008 11:43:42 AMRespond ^
Brittney, You were the oldest daughter, right? Your perspective reflects your experience with your mother and father... I am working on a book about this topic, and really want to talk to the children of the women--see what their experience is like. So much has focused on the women and their experience, but little on the children. Will you please talk to me? It might help clarify the picture. Mary
Posted by:Mary StewartApril 29, 2008 2:07:17 PMRespond ^
Britney was the youngest at 5 at the time of offenses
Posted by:TMay 27, 2008 6:41:10 PMRespond ^
Britt, I understand your pain. I am a friend of your mothers. In fact I knew you when you were a very little girl. Your mother is a very kind gentle woman. A child cannot possibly know what really goes on when they were as young as you were. I will not say bad things about your father. What I can say is your mother had many bruises which she always tried to cover up. Your father once tied the telephone cord around your mothers neck as he called me looking for her. So... I believe you just dont know the half of it and only can go by what you were told. One time your mother was beaten up called me crying and I said let me come get you and the kids and her response was if you come here he will kill you too. Britt I am sure you have suffered a lot of pain and my heart goes out to you and your sister and two brothers. Please try to look in your heart and forgive your mom for what you perceive to have happened. The one thing I know for certain is she loves all of you so much. This has been very difficult for your mom as well. As she prepares to get out of prison, I hope you can rebuild the relationship with her. God Bless
Posted by:anonymousJuly 11, 2008 12:30:11 PMRespond ^
Brittney, You have a right to be bitter but you better have your facts. I have seen the photos of how badly beaten your mother was. I did get to see them as I was at the trial. Your dad was an absolute monster to your mom. He did things beyond imagination. No one deserves to be killed but please put yourself in her shoes one minute. She was frightened and frightened for her children as well. Your dad did cocaine. Does that make him a good man? Everyone should love their parents and I am not trying to tell you things about your dad to upset you. I am trying to tell you no one is perfect and that both of your parents love you. You were robbed of your childhood because of this horrible event. Think about it, you lived with your dads family all of these years.
By right they should be bitter and that swayed your beliefs as well. Look how your sister Ashley turned out from all of this. She is in an abusive relationship and last I heard on drugs as well. It runs in the family. I pray for you and hope you have the strength to live a long happy clean life. Give your mom a chance. She is the only one you have and you are very lucky because she is an incredible compassionate woman. Good luck to you
Posted by:no nameJuly 11, 2008 12:39:50 PMRespond ^
What does here Dad's family have to do with it? They have raised here and loved her for her whole life
Posted by:no nameJuly 12, 2008 9:27:23 PMRespond ^
Her dads family does not have a thing to do with it and yes they raised her. Anyone with common sense will know that her dads family is bitter towards what happened and will influence a childs beliefs.
Posted by:==July 12, 2008 9:31:55 PMRespond ^
I think it is total immaturity on Britneys part saying her mom maybe deserved the beatings. Sounds like she has been told this her whole life to me. No one deserves to be brutalized.
Posted by:==July 12, 2008 9:33:45 PMRespond ^
Know has ever old brittney that her mom deserved to be bea(if she was) Brittney was very young and really dosn't know what happened, but she is mad at her mom for waht she did and what she says is her way of hurting her mom and showing her feelings
Posted by:no nameJuly 12, 2008 9:43:40 PMRespond ^
Is she also mad at her sister? Does Brittney understand her dad beat the crap out of her mom often. Does she understand her dad would drop off his car where her mom worked take her moms car because his was on empty. Does she know her mom feared for all of their lives? Sure she should be upset she lost a parent. I just think she has been given a tainted picture of the kind of man her dad was.
Posted by:==July 13, 2008 6:04:32 AMRespond ^
why would she be mad at her sister, they talk all the time, and are not mad at each other. As far as what she was told that is all she will ever know untill her mother tells her and the other kids the real truth face to face. If any one should have feared for their life It should have been Rodney, He is the one who while seeping got his head blown off, not her.
Posted by:no nameJuly 13, 2008 7:18:34 AMRespond ^
first of all none of u people have the right to judge ashley britt or the boys. u people know nothing u werent around and u didnt live there so untill u know some real facts get a life and find something better to do with your time. and for the miss or mr. know itall im in a very good relationship with a great guy, so who ever u get your info from tell them ashley said to stick that up their ass!! and not that its anybodys buisness but my own, i dont do drugs thank u very much! did i experiment when i was younger, sure, most peole do. so now somebody judge me for being a teenager.if u get your info from the one in prison then u have no business at all putting your 2 cents in. she hasnt been around for 15 years she has no freakin idea about anything that goes on in my life or the other 3 kids. i mean come on use a little common sence why the hell would u believe someone whos been behind bars for 15 years she probaly doesnt even remember the the real world is like. and how about the fact she had to change her story 5 times so she could try to get away it all. or how about when she gets her mom, my grandma and her sister, my aunt to bring me to the jail for a visit but instead it turns out to be a setup. yeah how about htese facts. they offered me money to take the blame of murdering my own father. now what kind of sick minded people would do that? these are suppose to be good catholic church going people, but yet they'll make an 11yr. old girl think about that. its bad enough my mom just ruined my life, her 3 kids life, and my dads entire families life. then on top of that when they realised i wasnt going for it, nothing was ever said of it agian, like it never even happend. no sorry,no explenation, nothing! so u wonder why after all this time i decide to have nothing to do with any of shellys family, becuz i havnt for got, i never will, so thanks to u "family" its your fault i dont want anything to do with u. say waht u will, but god knows the truth, and as church going people u should know that. he may forgive but i wont, becuz the day i was bribed is still fresh on my mind, and its your fault i have to live with that on my mind. so to who ever u are, reveal your name so the rest of the people reading this knows who the other liar is. i have no complaints about the way i was raised at least my dads family believed in me when i needed it the most. so if any body has a problem or thinks they have some more facts to put out for the world to see give me a call, im anxious to see who the coward is hiding behind their computer. 636-328-2687 please call me if u think u know more about me than i do. and if i find out your so called family, well i guess it dont matter becuz that was my first instict any ways, i just wont have anything to do u, kinda like now. its been 15 years get over it, move on, get a life, the murder gets out soon anyway 15 yrs for premed. murder just dont seem like enough. life would have been ok for me. let us move on with our lives, leave me and my family out of your fantasy internet world!!!!!!!!!!!!! you heard it first from the oldest daughter, keep us out of your past. feel free to call anytime, who ever u may be!
Posted by:ashleyJuly 13, 2008 9:39:13 AMRespond ^
by the way shelly could have left at anytime, she was to coward becuz she knew she could have never made it on her own. thats just stuppid woman sindrome. shes the kind of women who makes us all look bad. the only abuse i get in my relationship is a little ass spankin or hair pullin in the sack. if thats abusive then your sex life must be really lame!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by:ashleyJuly 13, 2008 9:44:26 AMRespond ^
first of all you people can all go [deleted] them selves. you think i dont have any clue what happened when i was younger well you all are wrong. You say my father was abusive and that you seen the bruises that my mom had on her well she probably did it to herself just like she tied herself up and try to say someone else did it. Ashley isnt on drugs you stupid people and her boyfriend isnt abusive if anything she keeps his ass in check. you say my dad was on drugs well you know damn well shelly was too. She isnt miss perfect like you people are trying to say. get a life and piss off
Posted by:b hendricksonJuly 13, 2008 10:05:40 AMRespond ^
I worked with her everyday and she never had a bruise and always praised how she loved her husband. But, for the salesman she had the affair with that Rodney never new about. Don't believe everthing you read this is coming from a murderer. I worked with her everyday as the detectives said she is a good actress.
Posted by:co workerJuly 13, 2008 12:03:04 PMRespond ^
This whole situation makes me sick. I feel sorry for what you have had to go through. I hope everyone in your family has found happiness. You are right people forgive but they never forget. When I read the postings here, I see so much anger towards your mom. Do you girls visit her? Do you plan on working on your relationship if she gets out? I will you all the best.
Posted by:MaryJuly 13, 2008 4:32:03 PMRespond ^
this is kyle shellys son first things first all you people need to keep out of all my familys buissnes you have no right to talk about something you no nothing about.and my sisters right if my dad was on drugs i no damn sure my mom was.if all this talk about my family dont stop i will find out who you are and then it will stop.
Posted by:kyle HENDRICKSONJuly 16, 2008 11:48:43 AMRespond ^
Dear Hendrickson Grandchildren,

As the mother of this person referred to as a murderer, I am sad. I cannot relate to her in that sense.
As the grandmother of you children, I am heartbroken. I do not have words to express the sorrow and regret I feel for you.
I wish I could offer some clarity about what happened and why on that terrible night but I am as confused and bewildered as you are.

However, I have just recently been made aware of this blog, and after reading all the remarks made here I realize there are some incorrect facts that I must clear up.

First of all Shelley has fought for 14 years to protect you children and keep your names away from the public. She has been asked many times to give interviews and information for books but always refused to talk about her children. If you read the article you will not see your names. Not until Brittney & Ashley responded to this blog were your names made public.
One reason Shelley took a plea bargin instead of having a trial, was to protect you from publicity and more embarrassment.
I point this out merely to remind you children that no matter what your mother did, she loved, still loves and will always love all of you and will do ANYTHING to protect you.
She hasn’t always made the right decisions but she made them with the intent of doing what she thought at the time was best.

Next I want to respond to you Ashley regarding the visit to your mother at the jail in the next day or so after her arrest.
Ashley I am sorry you have spent all these years thinking we would do such a horrible thing to you. Who offered you money to say you did this? I never heard of this before and I am truly upset that you would think I would do this.
I was not involved in that visit at all. I did not know it even took place until after the fact when Cindy called and told me about it. She received a call from the jail requesting her to bring you for a visit. She was upset and did not know how that would affect you but thought she had no choice but to do as she was asked.
Neither Cindy nor I had been allowed to talk to or visit with Shelley at that point, so how or why would we have made such an agreement?
Cindy told me while driving home from the visit she asked you how the visit went and you responded “Now I know who shot my dad” Cindy said she assumed your mother had tried to explain to you what happened but when Cindy tried to find out more information she said you would not talk about it. So we respected your wishes and did not question you about it anymore. I realize now that was a mistake. Many misconceptions have been made because we did not face the issue and discuss it openly with you children. I can only speak for myself when I say I just didn’t know what to say or how to handle the situation. I apologize for that.

Kids, Please know, I don’t know for sure what really happened that night and that is why I chose not to talk much to you about it. I probably didn’t handle the matter very well but I did what I thought was best for you and that was to try and get over it.
Your mom has paid a tremendous price for her actions, she has missed a big part of your lives and that weighs heavy on her heart. She knows she still has to face her punishment from God as well and that will haunt her for the rest of her life.
This has not been easy for either side of the families, but we must all move on.
Shelley will be home soon and I pray you children can put this behind you and accept her as the loving mother she is.
Hate and anger in your heart will only bring more pain in your lives.


Posted by:Grandma MickieJuly 19, 2008 1:18:08 PMRespond ^
Personally, I think it sucks to have your family business on the web. And it can be horrible to find out people are talking about your family. But surely, you can see that threatening (if all this talk about my family dont stop i will find out who you are and then it will stop.)those people only lends credence to the testimony that there was an abusive relationship. Now, I'm not saying that all anger and violence springs from abuse, but a large part of it does, large enough to overshadow your no-doubt justifiable ire. Think before you speak, for you need not unsay anything you did not say in the first place. Now, if you think that threatening is the apropriate response to people talking about you or your family, you might want to examine why that is so. Violence is so very rarely justifiable, and it is a learned habit.
Posted by:namonanashiOctober 6, 2008 6:18:22 PMRespond ^
i agree with Mickie. hate and anger only truly hurt one person. you. my grandfather was a drunk, he beat his wife hebeat his children, he threatend, he showed up drunk at their school or work. one day, he brought home a gun. thankfully, he only shot himself, but he had the bullets counted out for all of them. now, it's like he never existed. only 2 of the 7 of them will even acknowledge that he existed. my aunt's life has been all but destryed all for hating a man who is dead. nothing she does can hurt him, nothing she does can change the fact that he hurt her, but she is slowly ruining any chance she has of happiness because she cant live with it or let it go. i myself was sexually abused and i can tell you that my anger at my mother for not helping me has hurt me far more than it hurt her. so, please listen when i sugest that, however much you hate your mom, you make peace with her. you're giving her the power to hurt you, and i don't think that's what any of you want
Posted by:meOctober 6, 2008 6:30:09 PMRespond ^
look u people get on here and write all of these comments when u really have no clue as of what happened or whats goin on.. u try to relate ur bull[deleted] with what has happened to me and my family when we really dont care. this time there is gunna be no angry comments or none of that but we would really appreciate it if u guys would just stop. honestly its hard enough to deal with it and then to have all of u saying this i mean come on.. u postin this comment about how u were sexually abused and [deleted] but it has nothin to do with me so what in ur right mind would tryin make u even compare.. TO EVERYONE WHO FEELS THAT THEY REALLY NEED TO COMMENT ON HERE PLEASE JUST MAKE SURE U NO WHAT UR TALKIN ABOUT OR ATLEAST NO US..so if u dont no me or my family then just stop cuz u dont no whats goin on you people dont even no what all this is putting me threw im having a really hard time and this isent helping so just stop.
Posted by:kyle hendricksonOctober 7, 2008 10:01:56 AMRespond ^
Cythia Alvarez you have no idea as i or any one else on this f****d up blog i have the great honor of knowing her son and the things you people put on this is terrible leave these kids alone and not 1 us of knows what really happened and we should be praying for the kids not making excuses for a murderer they have to live without the father they love and miss everyday you people you need to get a life and stay out of theres please these kids have been hurt enough its her loss she chose to commit a crime and loose everything these kids dont owe her time energy are thoughts what she took from them can never be replaced so i hope you take these words and listen
Posted by:kelleyOctober 7, 2008 12:34:11 PMRespond ^

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