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Men Will Be Fathers
A federal appeals court has dismissed, as frivolous, the "Rowe v. Wade for Men" test case. It was:
... filed by a men's rights group on behalf of a man who said he shouldn't have to pay child support for his ex-girlfriend's daughter. [Matthew] Dubay, 25, had said ex-girlfriend Lauren Wells knew he didn't want to have a child and assured him repeatedly she couldn't get pregnant because of a medical condition. He argued that if a pregnant woman can choose among abortion, adoption or raising a child, a man involved in an unintended pregnancy should have the choice of declining the financial responsibilities of fatherhood. U.S. District Judge David Lawson in Bay City disagreed, rejecting Dubay's argument that Michigan's paternity law violates the U.S. Constitution's equal protection clause because it didn't extend reproductive rights to men.
Isn't "his ex-girlfriend's daughter" also his daughter?
It's indefensible that some woman get pregnant on the sly or are simply half-assed about birth control, but it's also indefensible to make women solely responsible for birth control and the support of child, however planned or unplanned. If there was some way to make the laggard solely liable for the emotional and financial well being of the innocent child which results, fine. But there isn't. I feel for men who become unintentional fathers or whose partners chose abortion over their objections. Among the many reasons I'm glad I'm a woman is the control I have, and fiercely exercise, over my reproductive life. Still, my concern for unwilling fathers is levened by the fact that they could have put as much energy into getting a condom and some foam involved as they do their penises. If you can't pull off the former, but can the latter, go into it knowing you're playing Russian Roulette. The court got this one right:
State courts have ruled in the past that any inequity experienced by men like Dubay is outweighed by society's interest in ensuring that children get financial support from two parents.
Do we really have another alternative?
Comments
I definitely agree with the general notion here that there is responsibility from both parents with a child regardless of an intended birth or not.
I want to point out also that the statement "Isn't 'his ex-girlfriend's daughter' also his daughter?" is a two-way street.
There is almost always a assumption that the man involved doesn't care or doesn't want the child. Yet, what happens when the man DOES want the child and the woman does not.
Regardless of who has to carry and birth the child, in that case, one can easily substitute, "Isn't 'her ex-boyfriend's daughter' also her daughter?"
"I feel for men who become unintentional fathers or whose partners chose abortion over their objections. Among the many reasons I'm glad I'm a woman is the control I have, and fiercely exercise, over my reproductive life. Still, my concern for unwilling fathers is levened by the fact that they could have put as much energy into getting a condom and some foam involved as they do their penises. If you can't pull off the former, but can the latter, go into it knowing you're playing Russian Roulette."
There is that, but lets not forget that courts impose child support because they are acting in the best interests of the children. It is hugely unfair of men that a woman can lie and become pregnant with a man's child, and it makes no difference that a man could just as easily have worn a condom when a woman induces him to father a child by deception. There is no excuse for that behavior from a woman. It's grossly unfair. That being said, all of that is completely and utterly irrelevant to the child who was brought into the world as a result of deception. The father must care for this child, whether he intended to have it or not.
Posted by: Xanthippas on 11/07/07 at 1:13 PM Respond
"it's also indefensible to make women solely responsible for birth control and the support of child, however planned or unplanned"
Having heard the full backstory on this case when the plaintiff first filed it I have to say that this is an issue of taking responsibility for birth control is not addressing what his complaint was. He was told specifically by the woman she could not have kids, was physically unable to, and there was no need for birth control.
Posted by: joel on 11/08/07 at 6:12 AM Respond
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Posted by: Cliff on 11/07/07 at 10:34 AM Respond